Anything that comes from your mind ..... whether it's from your heart or outside stimulation, it's your thoughts and what you think is immature could be an awakening to someone else. Don't hesitate to put anything on here.
Most any relationship is reparable as long as you have 2 parties that want the relationship to succeed. I'm no Psychologist but I would suggest you look back at pictures, memories and how you feel about your father and try to estimate about when things went wrong and work from there. On the other hand some folks are unapproachable and you may have to just live with that ....I'm sorry to say. I never talked much to my dad and I never told him I loved him til the day I saw him in that casket .... then it was too late. I said all that to tell you this ..... if you love your dad, the next time you see him and are ready to leave ...... kiss him on the cheek and tell him you love him and leave. If you do that enough maybe it will catch on ????
Now come the easy part .....maybe...lol Break the cycle of that behavior. I was determined I was going to be the best parent possible and not like my dad. Sure he provided for us 7 kids and we always had just enough but, that was it. I had an Uncle Joe who I always wished was my dad and I watched how he raised his 2 kids and I patterned myself after him and broke the cycle of my dad's type of parenting. I talked with Elizabeth and not to, or at her. She had a say so in how high she wanted to achieve so I encouraged her and helped her to get there, and beyond if she wanted. MY mom was like that .....always saying she thought we could do better while my dad told us to be satisfied at where we are in life and told us we'd fail if we tried anything more. I looked at the way my dad was raised, the son of immigrants, a father who drank and beat him and called him a dummy, took him out of school at 13 yo and put him in the coal mine and then I started to understand him a little better. My dad was basically the same, except he didn't drink, so he had no example of a good father but, I was allowed to finish high school and he said I was too stupid to go to college and lied about my age and put me in the mine at 17 .... he became disabled with arthritis and black lung and I was the sole support of 6 siblings and my mom and dad with a whopping $18 a day I was paid back then.
Elizabeth's mom and I are divorced and we seldom agreed on most things .......but we never disagreed about how to raise her. She used to tell us .... why can't you 2 fight like normal divorced parents. I'd tell her .....because we have you! Be Patient Lynz and start with baby steps with your dad .... it will be give and take at first with you giving the most but, if he is approachable it just might work out for you 2 but, think about this ..... Maybe he loves you in the only way he know how and doesn't know how to show you any different. Just a thought.
Anytime you want to talk flat_roader@yahoo.com is my email. By the way, I do play guitar...lol